Hi there,

Michelle, your contributions are ALWAYS most welcome and thank you for taking the time to consider our situations and offer guidance and advice. Like Kkasxo, I get a small glimmer of hope that I may make it through, given that you have done so.

Kkasxo,

Don’t be embarrassed? Who are you embarrassed around? Us? Surely not. Your friend? She doesn’t seem to be judging you. Embarrassment can only be caused around other people. One cannot be embarrassed on one’s own, so you maybe give too much weight to what other people think. A part of you wanted to try again with your ex because you love him. That was a part of you who choose to do that, a part of you. And don’t we have to love ALL parts of ourselves? Isn’t that self-love? The only one criticising the decision is yourself….or rather, your ‘Martha’ equivalent……the mean self critical voice. You did what you had to do at various times. Who is to say a decision is a bad one or a good one…my therapist always quotes and old fable which says any decision in life….whatever it may be….”good or bad, who’s to say”. If you did not do what you did, you may not have processed the way you needed to. To learn what you needed to learn.

I’m consciously trying to not beat myself as much over the decisions Im making lately. I feel if I’m going to make them anyway, how does been hard on myself help? It doesn’t. It just makes my anxiety worse.

Did you make it to work today?