Dear curiousknowledgeseeker:

I understand that you will feel guilty to cancel the invite, we people often feel guilty when we are not wrong.But I wouldn’t dismiss the idea of canceling the invite so  soon, if I was you.

Maybe your husband can help you with this, finding a way to cancel it. Why not talk with him, explore the possibility of preventing this expected suffering on your part (and his).

Maybe your husband will see it this way himself and be motivated to make it possible for his wife and the mother of his newborn to have a quiet and peaceful time after giving birth. You and your husband should focus on the new baby, the new family you are creating, not on old, extended-family distressing relationships.

anita