The move was almost a year ago but I think the stress can still be involved as I am the first girlfriend he has ever ‘provided’ for.   I work as well but do not make much like I was back home.  On top of that, I believe he is feeling insecure due to weight gain and some laziness outside of work…but I am not sure because he ‘appears’ very confident.  I wonder if me being in great shape is making him feel less than?  I will add…and I know this doesn’t hold a lot of weight…but I am more attractive than him (to the point where friends and family were like…uhhhh?).  I knew this when I met him but now if you ask me I would say he is the most handsome and sexy man in the world to me.  There is just something about him.  My disposition is anxious and pessimistic and I think when we moved in together this started coming out more.  I am working on this.  Sex is definitely an ego boost and a validating act for me.  I was married before and had ZERO sexual attraction to him, so having it now feels like WHOA THIS IS SO FUN.   I think my anxiety has something to do with it for sure.  BUT I still feel like I am not being heard by him.  I have conjured up crazy scenarios as to why he doesn’t want sex a lot (cheating, emotional cheating, porn addiction), all of which I have zero evidence.  I know that this issue begins with me…and that is what is most frustrating.  I also believe that I am putting expectations on him that are making the libido issue worse.  I also think he has some issues with ED that he isn’t attending to.  I believe you are very right in that my anxiety is fueling my desire to be clingy as well as push him away.