Dear afeels:

“all this anxiety and confusion” will rain on the parade  of anyone, regardless of sexual  orientation. And it does, it interrupts sex and relationships for gay people and straight people alike. The problem is not sexual orientation. The problem is anxiety, this ongoing fear.

There is no  greater human challenge than living with ongoing fear, day in and day out.

Fear keeps us away from experimenting, from exploring. It keeps us paralyzed in overthinking, in the abstract of thinking and obsessing. It is like we figure we are not going to start living before we figure it out in our heads, in an abstract way (without experimenting in Reality, that is).

anita