Thanks brandy.  I think a big part of everything it is that her situation changed so much when she did move in.  Before we lived together she had things figured out with her kids, daycare, work, ect….  then after she moved in so much in her work life changed and the fact we are 20 miles away from her parents which used to help out daily with her kids.  It made me the sole person to help whenever.  Became very hard for this guy.  I know these are all things we should of thought of.  But like you said  we had bright hopes and dreams.