Thanks all, I really appreciate all your points.

I am committed to delving into my trust issues, however I have no idea why I specifically ave them over any other regular person.

The shame point is a really good one, I’ve worked so hard in the last year to talk openly about “feeling insecure” with my partner, but have only just realised that along with it is an intense shame that I am insecure at all. You’re right, GL – it is being human, and I acknowledge that. But I worry that how often I feel insecure or like I cannot trust my partner is more than just normal human insecurity.

I am generally a confident person (outwardly) so I suspect I may have an idea of how I think I should be which I know internally I am not living up to. Maybe thats why I feel so much shame whenever I feel like I can’t trust or feel insecure.