Hi Michelle.

Those are good points and good questions. I hadn’t considered that sharing the problem could make it harder for my wife. I tend to be an open book so feel better for sharing but I think I will moderate that in future. I will have to talk to my family as that’s really how I cope right now. I’ve been breaking down every day so I really need that therapy. I’m trying to get the counselor to do some solo sessions with me as I’m struggling a lot with guilt and feeling incredibly hopeless but she has yet to get back to me from by message a couple of days ago.

I’m really trying to get to the bottom of whether my wife is just scared or whether she really doesn’t want kids however I really am thinking that it’s a choice. Whether by fear or not I do not think she will budge, she seems adamant.

I’m going to see whether counseling will help her make up her mind but if I actually stop and listen to her she seems pretty made up already.