Dear Bella:

From your child’s point of view, his father being “laid back.. just easy going and light hearted all the time” is a wonderful thing for him. On the other hand, witnessing his mother initiating and getting “into a fight about something”,  carrying on “heated arguments”, having “a temper and .. a hard time keeping a calm tone of voice” is a bad experience for your child. The latter promotes anxiety in a child; the former promotes calm, a feeling of safety that is necessary for a child to thrive.

Maybe you can satisfy your passion regarding political issues with other people, away from home, away from your child?

I suppose you have a choice to make: taking on the role of the adult in the relationship as far as financial planning and such, taking charge that way and allowing your partner other duties or roles in the household, or separate from him.

What do you think?

anita