Dear Reina:

You wrote: “I don’t feel comfortable talking about my past or childhood right now. I want to make the present and future better”-

I am glad you are assertive to state what you are not willing to do here, but I suggest you do talk about your past and childhood someplace else where you will be more comfortable, best would be in psychotherapy with a good therapist. If you don’t, your past will continue to severely interfere with your present and future.

You shared in your various threads that in the past two years you have no friends, no boyfriend and you are “extremely desperate to the point where it shows”, desperate to have friends and a boyfriend. You also shared that you have no idea why this is so: “I have no idea what went wrong”. You wrote:  “I’m always the one trying to make plans with people, I’m always ignored, talked  over, never invited to anything anywhere”. Even your two younger sisters ignore you.

You shared that you met a guy Aug 2017 but the month after, Sept, he ghosted you. Oct he texted you to “stay the f*** away from him”, Dec he started texting you again, Feb 2017 you went out on a date with him for the first time. In March “things got way deeper, very deep” and in April he was “very distant and vague”, and “hell broke loose” for you, you “cried 24/7 and just begged”, but he “never wanted to get back and ghosted you again.

Currently, nine months later, you are still not over this man. You live with your mother and your two younger sisters. Your mother and you “are constantly fighting” and your sisters and friends keep ignoring you. You spend your time watching movies and studying.

You wrote: “I really don’t understand what I’m doing wrong or how my life became this way”-

Better learn so that you understand. How can you possibly make your present and future better if you are in the dark, understanding nothing?

anita