Dear grounded:

You wrote: “I don’t know what he wants”. I don’t think he knows what he wants either because you shared on another thread: “He didn’t have a job for almost a year, he just got employed in November but hates his job, he applied for the military but isn’t sure what he wants to do… he’s figuring out his life and what he wants”-

This  means he can’t make future plans with you, can’t commit to you or to any other woman. He is on dating sites and hooked up with you twice or so after the breakup, last time was New Year, so he is interested in sex and some fun and dating, but he doesn’t have plans. He is considering options, probably is under great stress having to choose, not knowing what to do.

I figure best thing you can do is to give up and let go of the idea of resuming a girlfriend/boyfriend relationship with him, don’t you think?

anita