Dear Anita,

I also wanted to add something for myself – and you

What did not halting and responding immediately do?

• nothing bad, the other person is still fine, they always are
• preserved my ability to do what I was doing at that time, walking home from work on a sunny day
• allowed me to be present in my own mind, so that when my husband arrived home I was a good calm listener
• reminded me that my life is for me – and my husband – I am not put on this earth to live for someone else