Hi!

I have heard that advice before Michelle and i’m trying it out! It makes it easier to know what you want and don’t want, but still finding it hard to accept that.

I do have another question for everyone in a similar heartbreak situation. My ex and I shared all the same friends, and we are in the same facebook chats and snapchat groups and basically our whole friend group is the same. I have been avoiding events with them and just trying to see them one on one, and as i get stronger i will start going to the whole group events (there are only like 8 of us so it’s pretty small). I find myself not knowing what information to disclose to certain friends. For example, I am going away next week on a trip for myself and some mutual friends are asking if I am around next week. While I obviously will tell them that I am not, I am hesitant to say what I am doing because I find myself wanting to restrict information to them so that my ex wonders what i am up to and miss me and reach out. I do not know if they even talk about me, and i know that it is childish, i’m just not sure what to disclose and what to keep to myself.

Any thoughts?