Hi Anita,

Thank you again for your reply. I agree with you, on a rational/cognitive level, you are absolutely right that there is nothing going on between him and me other than what is in my brain.

In order to stop what I have been thinking about, i.e., the last interaction (specifically the shame, humiliation, and disappointment of the outcome), what do you suggest I do? Do you think it’s best to try to force myself to think of something else whenever the thought pops up? I take it yo do not think it is a good idea to express any of my thoughts or feelings to him directly?

Thanks again for your help, Anita. I am so grateful for the time and energy you have already spent helping me!

– L