Dear laelithia:

You are welcome.

“Do  you think it’s best to try to force myself to think of something else whenever the thought pops up?” – I don’t think that will work for you, to try and force yourself to think of something else, it can encourage your obsession with him.

You are considering expressing to him your thoughts and feelings, once again, that will be something going on, something you will be sending to him- questions

1. What will be the message you will be sending him?

2. What is your motivation; what do you want to happen as a result of sending him this message?

3. What if he doesn’t respond, how will that affect you?

4. If he does respond, what response will be helpful to  you and what will make things worse for you?

I will be away from the computer for the next 17 hours or so. If you post before I am back, I will read from you and reply when I return.

anita