Dear Reggi:

I would present the topic to your boyfriend, suggest to him to have a discussion between the three of you. If you feel too emotional and are afraid you won’t be able to express yourself clearly talking to him, a one page letter may be better. You can take your time writing it, seeing that it expresses how you feel and what you think honestly and clearly, and give it to him to read.

In the initial conversation with him/ in the letter, don’t blame him for anything and don’t complain to him at this point about his parents’ behavior. Try to be as calm and fair, and listen to his response. If you feel  very emotional while he responds, not liking what he says, don’t react, instead take a break from the situation and return to it later when you are calm. You are welcome to post here during such a break if you want my input regarding his response.

There is nothing wrong with how you feel. It doesn’t mean that he should end contact with her, maybe he should, maybe he shouldn’t, I don’t know. Better find out information during that initial conversation with him and additional conversations, to follow with some kind of a deeper communication with her, in the context of the three of you talking and take it from there.

I hope to read from you soon. I will soon be away from the computer and back in about sixteen hours from now.

anita