Thank you for your response Anita.  When you mentioned him keeping the work place less boring, do you have any advice about how I should or should have dealt with this please?  Do you think it may be that I’m not sexy enough for him? His work wife used to text him at 5am after they finished work and one night she text him saying “xxxx you’re amazing! Xxxx” – would anyone else be suspicious of this?   Its been so draining that I have found it difficult to believe that none of this is either kept going or caused by him.  He told me to trust him and not care what the other girls behave like. Thanks