Dear Elizabeth:

Analyzing him more would be of benefit if there was a reasonable chance of resurrecting your relationship with him. But his move away from you looks quite permanent to me. The beginning of that permanence as I see it is that he sat with his girlfriend in public view holding her hand that day you witnessed it. The continuation of that permanence is that after you confronted him right there and then, outside the bar, he didn’t follow you, didn’t answer your calls and instead told you that he didn’t love you and that he loved her.

“I think he still has this wanderlust and desire to have some kind of impermanence. I do think all of the very permanent things that happened in his life (really our life) is what threw him for a loop”-

-maybe the two of you have a problem with things being permanent. On your part you are not accepting his move out and away from you to be permanent.

No one can tell the future, of course. We have to deal with probabilities. Like I wrote, his move away from you reads probably permanent.

anita