Hi Elizabeth: I’m sorry you are going through this. My question is…why aren’t you angry? I know Buddha says angry is….etc. etc. but sometimes anger is a good tool to make you reassess a situation, and change your actions. I believe that while he knows you are sitting there pining for him he will not be concerned about his choices and decisions. He’s with her…and he’s got you there waiting for him to come to his senses. I believe you will feel better if you stop being available and waiting for him. Just cut him off and let him go on with this “employee” who he was most likely having an affair with for quite a time before you found out. Most likely it won’t be quite so much fun when the blush has worn off and the person that he married and has a long history with is not only moving on…but doing well. Everyone says take up a new hobby, etc. but when you are depressed doing something new is the last thing you want to do in my experience. I really hope you look in the mirror and realize that you have been mistreated, I don’t really care what he’s going through because he didn’t care enough to tell you at the time. I hope you realize that you are a young woman with a lot to offer someone else. Break-ups are heart breaking but in my experience the heart will mend and one day you will look back and think, “why did I put up with that?”

You’ve got this.