Dear Nichole:

There is a lot of sadness in realizing the waste of time and youth. But once you feel that sadness throughout, the sadness doesn’t feel overwhelming anymore.

Notice I suggested to you in my post yesterday: “Pay attention to where you are, the people you are with, stay in the here-and-now”. I did not suggest “Trying to enjoy the here and now”. The difference is that if you are with people who harm you, better not try to enjoy their company. Better pay attention and learn from the here-and-now so to make better choices in the future.

I imagine you enjoyed the Valentine dinner in the restaurant, correct? And you overate maybe because you wanted to enjoy more, so you ate more. But later you vomited that dinner. The joy of eating doesn’t make up for the misery of engaging in relationships that hurt us.

Do you think it is a good idea to make this visit to AZ the last one, for you?

anita