Dear Kkasxo:

“I only recall happy memories from my childhood”- no one more than a child is more motivated to be aware of and recall happy experiences and memory. A child desperately needs to feel safe so she looks for any sign of safety and closes her eyes to anything and everything that doesn’t feel safe, best she/ he can.

Problem is that what we close  our eyes to as children comes back to haunt us as adults. We can ignore reality, but reality will not be ignored, it will keep trying to get  our attention.

I understand that your mother and step father will be returning to their country of origin in a few months, by summer of this year. It is my understanding that you were and may still be in some sort of a situationship, as you referred to  it, with your ex boyfriend, that he offered to you not long ago to rent a place with you after all, when your parents leave the U.K. I read most recently that you are thinking about moving out of your parents before summer and living on your own, that is without the young man (boyfriend/ partner, ex or current, I don’t know). Also, you attend some kind of therapy.

I think you need a clear plan. I think you have it in you to make a good life for yourself, you are intelligent, courageous, creative, lots of life in you. It is time to make a plan. What do you think?

anita