Dear Elizabeth:

The message “I don’t deserve to be happy, that I’ve done this to myself and this is what I get”, you wrote about this message: “I guess it is a message I’ve been hearing for a long time”- by whom?

“but it’s probably because it’s a message I’ve been telling myself since I became independent, if that makes sense”-

It will probably make sense to me once I understand what you meant in this sentence.

If you want to answer the question I presented to you in this post and if you want to explain to me what you meant by the line I quoted from you in this post, please do.

I believe that examining this message is necessary for your well being and I will be glad to examine this message further with you.

anita