To add my own two cents even though you might not like it too much, I think you did slightly over react. Though I can understand that over reaction if you’ve been sexually assaulted. Conditioning through bullying though out my life has caused me to over react to the some of the smallest things. I know this isn’t what you want to hear but in my experience if you take every slight like that seriously then it ends up making you more and more sensitive. I try my best to not take things so seriously now and it’s hard + doesn’t always work but i think in general for people that get hyper sensitive that it’s for the best. In general people like us have to get used to over reacting and feeling like idiots sometimes.

Also if you want some perspective on a guy’s side of friendship with the other sex. Sometimes it’s hard to not be attracted or to keep your attraction away from your decisions as a dude. I’ve had trouble being friends with girls for this same reason. It’s almost torture if you suddenly end up attracted but are scared about ruining the friendship as a guy. I still haven’t figured it out myself.