Lola,

You have started seeing him in January. You two agreed on a date on Saturday and he never followed up until 2 am that Saturday? Plus he is not wanting a serious relationship (whatever that means).

I’m not sure what you are wanting from us. This is a brand new relationship.  If you asked if you “ruined” things with him, it sounds like it was a singular incident that you both discussed and resolved with his apology.  If that is what it takes for a new relationship to end then you better off knowing this early on rather than later.

You got triggered about being disrespected and this is on the heels of your past abusive relationship. This sounds like your baggage that you are laying on this new guy. You two agreed that you both want nothing serious.

Mark