Anita,

Thanks 🙂

I think you are absolutely right that we project hopes and dreams onto a person, and that keeps us conflicted. But with him I really don’t know what to think, I guess it would be fairly simple to put him in a category of “asshole” or “douche”, and while he is, that’s not all he is. So I just feel confused, and I almost want to have a safe category for him, i.e “douche”. I don’t know if that makes sense, but it would help settle the confusion maybe. At the same time he’s the only person I ever had such strong feelings of attachment to, not saying it’s the last but I think that’s what makes it hard to let go.