Hi Anita,

Yes I’ve been thinking of doing that very thing. For the past three months or more!

I keep procrastinating, deliberating, overthinking. The stress of this whole situation has made me very anxious, so much so that I am taking medication for it.

I keep hoping that her own conscience will keep her playing fair and in check, but I don’t think that is going to happen. I don’t want to have to force the issue because of splitting the whole family up. And I have to admit the thought of yet another narcissistic rage from her is enough to make me want to run away and hide.

I have bought a book about how to set boundaries with people like this. It might help! I am only just realising that I have been letting her overstep boundaries for years. I have established boundaries over the years, but I can draw a line… she oversteps the line and I just draw another line, and so on. And then letting it go for the sake of peace. She keeps doing it and I keep letting her do it. This has got to stop.

I think I have been trying to be the guardian of her conscience. But every time I call her actions and motives into question, she flies off into a rage, smokescreens the issue, and eventually I just back down. She always, but always gets her own way, whether that is the right way or not!

Sorry for venting. I am angry with myself for letting her do this to me. It’s the story of my life with her and a very hard habit to break. But I have to start standing up for myself with her at some point, and it might as well be now.

I will not be bullied, humiliated or controlled by anyone else. It’s just my sister I have this problem with.

Jay x