Dear Heartbrokengurl:

Welcome back. Feb 15, 2017 was the first day you posted her, you just had a breakup at the time with a boyfriend of 2.5 years: “He has some anger issues, and I have trouble with intimacy. He always brings up sex and says talking to me about it is like pulling teeth. I don’t think I am like that, but in any event, he does… Now I’m heartbroken”.

March 9-10, 2017, you wrote: “I keep getting this urge to just date right away because I can’t stand the loneliness… I joined a dating site… I’m extremely shy“.

March 26, following seeing your ex for the purpose of picking up your belongings, you wrote: “Seeing him though made me realize that I’m not in love with him anymore”.

April 1: “I went on my first date last night, and it was nerve wracking but amazing. He was such a great guy and we got along so well… I woke up with  a smile on my face today! We had some great kisses at the end of the night and said we hoped to see each other again”.

I didn’t read your posts following April 2017, but to the best of my memory, April 1, 2017 was the start of the following pattern: you meet a man in person, think the world of him and he of you, the date goes great, and very quickly, sometimes following one night of sex, he breaks up with you.

The reasons the men break up with you so soon may have to do with what your ex boyfriend told you, which I italicized above, as well as the following, which you shared April 1, 2017: “Another issue that I’m dealing with, is that my ex boyfriend unfortunately passed on an STD to me when we first started dating. Now I’m stuck with this thing, and have to go through the process of being scared as hell having to tell him, or any future dates, if it gets to that point. I am scared of being rejected because of it”.

It is very unfortunate that your boyfriend of 2.5 years passed on an STD to you (you shared later that it is genital herpes), and it must be a big problem for a woman who is “extremely shy”, as you shared early on.

Would you like to respond to this post to you? I would like to understand better and maybe we can both understand better, and hopefully something good will come out of it.

anita