Hi Mark,

Thankyou for your reply. It is very honest & to the point. I appreciate that.

I tried to talk to him again last night, very calmly. I do not wish to be living with someone who is happy to ignore me for 3/4 weeks at a time. This is not good for my emotional well being. I said that I did not wish to argue with him & would like to know how he feels about the current state of things in our relationship. I told him how I feel. He said he doesn’t know how he feels, then proceeded again to tell me how I feel & think. Very frustrating. He also said “You already decided you were doing your own thing”. I think he is annoyed that I went to visit my Mum last week without telling him. Although he spends the vast majority of his free time doing what he wants without me.

You are right. I don’t believe he will change. So a will or commitment will not make any difference to us at this point. He refuses to discuss anything that he believes isn’t going to work for him. I have been thinking it may be better me walking away from this. From his lack of wanting to meet me halfway or discuss anything it seems like he might be pushing for this, but he would not walk away, it seems he has more care for our apartment than he does for me at the moment.

Thankyou for your take on things Mark.