Dear Heartbrokengurl:

You are welcome. I think it will  be a good idea to attend short term couple therapy with  your current boyfriend or perhaps ex boyfriend, for the purpose of you gaining better insight into what is happening.

Maybe the guy will be able to communicate to you in a therapy setting, aided by the help of a capable therapist, what he may feel uncomfortable to communicate to you in a personal setting. And maybe you will be able to communicate to him in that setting what you are uncomfortable to communicate to him in a personal setting.

anita