Dear lisa:

I understand you feeling uncomfortable and distressed with dates during your working week, being tired after work, being used to your weekday routine and your time being your own. I therefore suggest that you arrange  for first dates with men you communicate with on the dating sites on weekends only, time and place that are convenient for you.

If you meet a man you like on a Saturday, meet him again Sunday, and then the Saturday after. Over a few such dates, you may want to see him on a weekday, because you like him so much and find yourself energized after a workday at the thought of meeting with him.

Regarding living together and getting married, that is later, after you like the man on the weekends, and if and after you want to see him sometimes on weekdays, and if you have a meeting of the minds, over time, a compatibility of values and so forth.

anita