Hi B,

He could be a narcissist, OR he could be merely a player. When we label someone as a “narc”, that’s all there is, that explains (somehow) everything. But if he’s just some guy, that’s even more insulting.

Choose to be insulted. Out of literally anyone else on the planet, he runs to your arms for you to comfort him? Seriously? Where is your friggin’ trip to Dubai? As a matter of fact, where is my trip to Dubai?? Inky says everyone deserves a trip to Dubai!!

In fact, tell him, “I know I’m not new or anything, but I could really help you if we’re someplace alone, without your mother. Like Dubai.”

True story: One of my step-brothers has somehow kept the same three women as rotating girlfriends for the past thirty years. He’s not a narc, either. He’s just (insert name here).

I think you know by now to gently laugh at him and move on with a nice new boyfriend. Key word new.

Best,

Inky

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