Hi Carien,

You said.. ‘my whole identity was in him’.    Yes…this is very true.   And now your identity has gone with him.   Where does this leave you?

Whatever may be the most familiar object, person or activity you hold close to your heart, hold this close always and everywhere.      Take something of this nature with you wherever you may go in this acute phase of your loss.

Time may feel like it has slowed down tremendously.  Become aware of your movements, your breath, aware of the sense this slow down feels like in body and include it into your mind and heart.   It may be natures way of healing, helping you gain insight into your journey through this time.