Dear Jay:

When I mentioned justice, I didn’t think about justice for your mother. I thought about justice for you personally. More specifically, I was thinking about the many years that as an adult I kept contact with my mother  and the high price I paid for it, continuing to live a dysfunctional life and to suffer, a whole lot. I kept contact with her thinking it will hurt her if I stop contact. I should have thought about my hurt, not hers, do justice by me.

Your sister has mistreated you for a long, long time. It is not justice for you to make yourself available for more of it.

anita