Thanks Mark, and we already did that and it has worked out. I feel that if she is going to be around my son she would try to be friendly with me. As for her parenting my son. My ex and I agreed she is not to parent him. We set ground rules and we both put our input into it. I know i have no say in their relationship and I am not trying too. I just do not know her and I do not trust. She knowingly went into a relationship with a person while he was in a relationship and had a son. I just dont trust her as a person to be around my son. I think if i sat down and got to know her this whole situation with her being around my son everytime he is with his father put my mind at ease. But when I bring this up to my ex that i want to get to know her he gets defensive and rude. See he brought our son around her without my knowledge my son told me. And i flipped out on him. I felt that was disrespectful we should have talked about it first. Thats when we came up with ground rules.