Dear Thomas:

Reads to me that he wants to keep contact with you but not a very close contact. I suppose it  makes sense that he wouldn’t want frequent contact because he is moving to Canada, far away from you. Prepare a few questions to ask him when you meet him, so that you know what he wants. Ask specifically about what kind of contact/ long distance friendship he wants to have with you and ask about his goals in life otherwise. Use the meeting to get honest information from him.

Try your best to ask him a few questions not as a needy, anxious person invested in getting just the … right answers so that you can feel better as a result. Ask the questions as if you were an objective journalist, or an objective interviewer, simply looking for information.

Don’t expect to resolve anything during the meeting, use it to gather the information and process that information later, when alone. You can share that information here and I will be glad to give you my input about it.

anita