Dear Anita,

That’s exactly the way it is in my situation, Anita.

My mother is being looked after by my sister, and seems happy enough. If someone asked my mother if she was happy with the situation as it is, she would say yes. She is now dependent on my sister for her every need. Perhaps she thinks that is worth the cost, although I’m not sure if my mother is aware of the cost of anything, these days.

Even if I reported this state of affairs, my mother would insist that this is the way she prefers to live. And unless my mother says otherwise to someone in authority, which won’t happen, then I’m stuck with this situation as it stands.

In effect, I would be rocking the boat for nothing, as it would get me nowhere if I did report what my sister is up to. The authorities will always put the wishes of my mother first.

I just wish my sister could be fair. And wishing for that is wishing for the impossible, because it won’t happen.