Dear Girija:

Congratulations for seeing that it is possible for you to approach life “calmly and see it through”. I am glad that you felt proud of yourself independently of getting praised from others.

“I do not have the time or energy to go through me saying no to arranged marriage and her acting frenzied“-

– frenzied is the opposite of calm. You don’t want to make choices while being frenzied yourself and you don’t want to let another person choose for you when they are frenzied. It is a bad idea to let another choose for you when he or she is calm in most circumstances. But to let another person choose for you when he or she is frenzied, well, that is a bad-on-top-of bad idea.

anita