Anita,

I don’t think I was damaged really by my other until my teen years, especially when I went to college.  She is really good at the baby/child stage as a mom.  When I and my siblings were older, she seemed less patient and wanted us to figure it out on our own and stop relying on her too much.  Which is a normal thing for a parent but she did not try to make it happen gradually, it was like overnight.  For example when I went to college, she pretty much said you are on your own now and they moved into a new house without a room for me.  She emotionally cut herself off from me overnight.  I was very lost for a long time.  We have a good relationship now.

My ex is my ex-husband.  Technically not until divorce filing but I don’t want to refer to him as husband.  I start moving on Monday, April 1st.  I’ll be completely moved in by next Saturday the 9th.  I’ll probably start staying over before the 9th.

I feel like the fog is lifting and I am getting over the entire situation with M. a bit everyday.  Really it was supposed to be something casual.  I was not in a position to enter into that type of situation really at all-it’s not my personality.

Lindsey