It took a long time to discuss it with my mother and for me to accept her behaviors and move on.  My father was recently diagnosed with anxiety and severe panic attacks.  During their marriage he used pot, alcohol, and food versus meds to cope with his disease.  My mom was busy trying to raise my brother and sister who were 12 and 14 years younger than me and having to deal with him.  She knew I needed to break away from her and be more on my own she just didn’t know how to do it.  When I had kids I saw her in a different light; she was just trying to survive like everyone else.

Lindsey