Dear Sisi:

You described a lot of what is called “mind reading”, guessing what people are thinking, trying to decipher the meaning of stares and such. This mind reading is quite useless because really, there is no way to read a person’s thoughts. A person staring at you may not be staring at you at all, he may simply be looking at your direction, their mind wandering about things not related to you.

But you did have real life interaction with this young man: “He tutored me in a subject that he’s really good in as we were left all alone, and he was being very sweet (offering me his jacket when I was cold) and asking me a lot of questions about myself”-

And he never returned to you with more questions, trying to find out more about you.

If he never met you in person, never been alone with you and asked you questions, that would be one situation. Maybe in that situation, he had trouble introducing himself to a woman he never met. But he already met you, spent time alone with you and asked you a lot of questions.

If he wanted to get to know you better, all he had to do is say Hi, how are you doing (with the subject matter he tutored you, or with information you gave him when answering his questions).

What kind of questions did he ask you?

anita