Dear Cali Chica:

1. “I go to my cousins house the following weekend, I forget to tell my cousins about the mall trip because we are having fun outside playing… my mom says later: … a ‘roaring lion at home, but a scared lamb around others'”-

– the reason you didn’t tell your cousins about the mall was that you  were having fun and you forgot your mother’s agenda, you were actually in your own here-and-now, having fun.

-the reason you didn’t tell your cousins was not, as your mother suggested, that you were scared, a scared lamb.

Your mother agenda in the mall and later, was not that her daughter will have fun. Her agenda was to show off to the people she was envious of, that she was having fun without them, that she didn’t need them to have fun!

You got distracted by having fun yourself, with your cousins, and forgot…. her agenda.

2. “Ever since I was a baby I cried all the time. My mom always says it and so does everyone”. Maybe you didn’t cry more than the average baby. You were your mother’s first baby and she didn’t like having a baby. She told others you cried a lot so that is why they said you did. This is a possibility. I don’t trust your mother’s accounts to be accurate, not even close.

This point is worth repeating, what your mother told you about you, I don’t trust it at all.

She had an agenda, to show others that she was having fun without them, those other people. She didn’t even see you, didn’t see who  you were or what you were about.

anita