Michelle,

In all honesty, you have hit the nail right on the head!

I am reading, and re-reading everything that you have said and it completely applies to my situation also. It was a discovery of mine a while back that I have an anxious attachment style whilst A2 has an avoidant attachment style. As you say, you’re a prime example of the fact that it can change and actually I have another example of this very close to home. One of my best friends had an anxious attachment style due to her upbringing and then being in and eventually leaving an abusive relationship. She has been with her now partner for three years and he is literally the prime example of a secure attachment style and because of this you can literally see the transformation in her and how she is as a partner in this relationship! You’re right, he has taught her how to be secure by not giving into her anxiety but rather assisting her in working through it. It does happen!

I believe I am setting myself for a lifetime of misery living in anxiety, whether with A2 or someone else, if I don’t work through these issues so I’d be more than happy to explore this concept further and shift the conversation in this way. Afterall, anxiety generally is exhausting and what bliss it sounds to be to just feel so secure in yourself as a person and all the relationships/friendships surrounding you. Pure bliss!

With that in mind, I saw another quote I love today; ‘With how fast life really does pass us by and how we will never get these days back again I do wonder sometimes, am I being daring enough? Spontaneous enough? Am i speaking my truth enough? Going after all the things I want in life enough? Am I simply not giving a sh*t enough?’

I think you’re right! Time to get to work! It’s time to make a life we truly want, not one we hope for.