Anita,

red flags

1. Agreeing to meet up at a sports bar to hang out for first time.  He had been there with friends. I show up and he’s extremely drunk. He doesn’t move just stares at me. I instantly feel uncomfortable bc of that and a woman of around my age staring at him like she just lost her dog.  I left 2 minutes after being there. I should have dropped him then or anyone that gets drunk knowing they are meeting a female.

2. Him telling me this can’t go anywhere because he’s done raising kids.  It was rude and I should have said bye right away.

3. Seems focused mostly on  himself during sex. Funny it wasn’t like that before we had sex.

4. Allowing me to think his wife cheated on him. He just never answered the question when I asked him so I assumed. I thought he came from a relationship where he was treated negatively. I think it was the other way around but he didn’t clarify it until way later. He cheated on her before they got married but were together with their first child.