Dear Anita,

By the way, I started watching this series “The Act’ it is based on a true life story. In which a mother, Dee Dee blanchard, infantilizes her daughter, by creating illness and continue to keep her child in the sick role, in a wheelchair even though she can walk, with a feeding tube even though she can eat.  The story ends up being that her daughter grows up to resent her to the point of killing her.  And many details in between.

I bring it up – because it is an extreme example – but one in that, the daughter as time goes, on starts to see the truth between the lies.  Not just about her mother, but about her own self.  It is interesting in the fact that I feel I can relate to parts of it, feeling conflicted of wanting to exert “independence” but feeling guilty that this would make my mother feel bad.

Just wanted to add.