Hi Griff,

I empathise with you, I really do. It’s horrendously difficult and something you are not ready to move on from yet. But continue doing the things you feel will help you maintain an okay life, until they don’t feel like a challenge anymore. Perhaps the new relationship is a little too soon until you deal with the pain of loss from the previous relationship.

i know people say, move on, find someone who actually wants to invest in you. But I think you have to be ready for that with a whole and open heart and if you’re not there yet, just survive. As my therapist says, survival at times in an achievement. If you got hit by a bus and we’re laid up in hospital, everyone would support you and accept you need time to heal. Well you have been hit by a metaphorical bus, so just survive for now and hopefully the rest will come.

Michelle,

I don’t feel I’m benefitting as much from therapy right now as I have done in the past. I don’t know. I’m not moving forward, I’m not able to go back, I’m just, lost a little at the moment. And of course scared of being hurt again.

I hope Kkasxo is doing ok.