Dear prudence:

This man is not your son’s father but he was afraid that his child’s mother will make a mistake, thinking that your child is also his, did I understand correctly?

I like your answers to my questions. Better never again “let another man play (you)” in any way. At least, you can make sure that the chances that another man plays you are minimal.

“All my relationships have been a failure”, is in the title of your thread, but notice: most relationships in the world fail, often people break up and many of those that continue are quite miserable a lot of the time.

But there is a whole lot you can do to  maximize your chances to  have a successful relationship in the future if you pay attention and not close your eyes wishing-and-hoping it will turn out well, then, because your eyes are closed, you bump into a wall and it is over.

First step is to get to know a man before getting physically involved with him. Get to know him, see if he is decent. There are such men, and you need only one.

Do you have contact with your parents/ family and is any of it good?

anita