Hi Yonatan,

Here are my thoughts in no particular order:

1. Maya is too young to get married

2. The bride’s parents traditionally pay for the wedding. End of story.

3. I know the Orthodox get married very fast. She is from a secular family, correct? Maybe it was going way too fast for them? Just because you are now Orthodox doesn’t mean you are bred in the bone Orthodox. Neither is she. And definitely not her parents.

4. Her mother hinted that you propose. When you did I think they realized they threw themselves into cold lake water. Meaning it was all too soon.

5. I have a son who needed extra time at school because he’s dyslexic. He is brilliant, not schizophrenic. Clearly you are brilliant too if you could support yourself in Connecticut and find a job fairly immediately when moving in this economy.

6. Her parents went way over the top because they wanted this whole engagement business to end. The plain truth is they couldn’t handle their spoiled daughter who is too immature to get married. So they PROJECTED their rage onto you.

7. If you were my son I would be very, very proud of you!!

8. When someone or something seems too good to be true, it probably is.

Prayers for you, who have a beautiful, sensitive soul,

Inky