Dear noname:

You are welcome.

Going back to your post before last, the one from yesterday, you wrote: “my mom was threatening to drive the van into his house, and I grabbed her and wouldn’t let her get in the car.. She was very aggressive and rude towards me for trying to Deescalate the situation”-

– you tried to help her and her reaction was not: thank you son, I was going to make a big mistake and you prevented me from making this mistake, thank you so much!

No, she attacked you instead.

You then proceeded to ask her to get her life together “and take care herself so me and my sister don’t have to“- well, you don’t have to.

If you don’t take care of your mother anymore, you will be showing your sister that she too, doesn’t have to. You and your sister don’t have to!

If you turn your back to the woman who attacks you when you try to help her, you will be moving toward and facing a person who will say thank you for your help, I really appreciate it! That will make you no longer “a deeply lonely man”.

In your quest to be loved, you have to turn away from those who don’t love you and move toward those who might love you. You already have experience with those who don’t love you, those who attack you while you are trying to help them. You know how that looks like, so watch for those behaviors in others- when I try to help this or that person, what is her response, and is it consistent?

The moving to the house August reads like a good move.

anita