Dear GonzalezM:

“it’s like he completely pushed me away. Which has me feeing that I ruined the relationship”-

– it is painful to be pushed away by anyone, more so, by someone you like and worse, by someone you love.

– the fact that he pushed you away doesn’t mean that you ruined the relationship, doesn’t mean it was your fault. For a while before the break there were days he didn’t contact you and so the two of you didn’t speak. And it has been more than a week now that he didn’t contact you. I am thinking that it may be that he lost his loving feeling for you, that desire for you. I feel sad as I type this because this possibility must hurt to read about, isn’t it? Maybe you thought about it yourself, and that already hurt.

What motivates us to do things are emotions and physical sensations: we feel hunger-> we look for food, we feel tired-> we look for a place to rest, we feel affection for someone-> we contact that person so to hear their voice or spend time with them.

So I figure he no longer felt that affection for you anymore. What do you think?

anita