Inka!

What you’re saying makes so so much sense to me! I do indeed feel like I just want someone to be into me that I’m remotely attracted to (because there are other people who want to date me but i don’t care b/c I’m not remotely into them). And as the one to always walk away, now that someone walked away from me (my partner of 5 years), I even more in need of that ego boost. And I’m sure that he’s in the same spot! It explains why he’s pulling away when I admit being into him – he’s getting what he wants and looses interest?! Same for me, when I noticed he started being all “emotional” I felt like he’s not that interesting, too available, just another guy who fell for me (I consider myself attractive and men pursue me fairly often). And I do acknowledge that I don’t think he inspires me, basically again i want a relationship (any relationship) for the wrong reasons. This is not love.

But why then he refuses to stay FWB? What has he got to lose?

And why do you think he’ll reach out again?

Also – do you think if I pull back and tell him that I’m not interested in anything unless there’s sex, will that make him want to chase me? To get that ego boost rush?

I’m also remembering he always tells me when I compliment him (great job doing that run! you’re a great at what you do! etc.) he says he loves it very much.

Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts!

• This reply was modified 5 years, 7 months ago by Julia.
• This reply was modified 5 years, 7 months ago by Julia.