Dear Anita,

Your mother didn’t believe you as someone capable of helping her, so essentially she used you as a punching bag.  One, because of her “anger and annoyance” at feeling you are incapable (a delusion) and two, because of her internal distress and insecurity.

She likely not only used you as a punching bag to deflect her own issues and anxieties, but also the “issue” she had with having a daughter who was “not good enough or capable” enough for her.

My sister and I have had this two fold treatment.  Often unpredictable – esp for me given that I was her “savior” in one second and kicked to the curb as “incapable” the next.

Seeing now, that it was all the same.  You  can not satiate an insatiable being with no concept of reality.